tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5424482756711997594.post1913184108335321356..comments2023-12-30T18:00:34.669-07:00Comments on by the light of grace . . .: Meeting w/ My Area President: The Truth About SexThe Lighthouse Coalitionhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07313283867022797916noreply@blogger.comBlogger9125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5424482756711997594.post-70306821901489079362019-03-05T00:00:34.275-07:002019-03-05T00:00:34.275-07:00Their website builder is pretty handy. I should ma...Their website builder is pretty handy. I should make my own website I suppose <a href="https://www.tiktokdesk.com/" title="Tik Tok" rel="nofollow">Tik Tok</a>Sophie Gracehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09769321133171248409noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5424482756711997594.post-43047244133156470982017-11-29T07:41:30.599-07:002017-11-29T07:41:30.599-07:00When I heard about this post, I was looking forwar...When I heard about this post, I was looking forward to watch this video. Unfortunately it has been removed. Is video available somewhere else, so we can watch it.Judy Pearsonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13697891339749148848noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5424482756711997594.post-49639056840136192482017-04-21T00:29:16.570-06:002017-04-21T00:29:16.570-06:00Fantastic story, so much truth in what was shared....Fantastic story, so much truth in what was shared. I agree with everything said above. I think what the Stake president said was more than likely interpreted correctly by you. To maybe give some thought from where the stake president may be coming from I also think there are some instances where the male unrighteous dominion can go in the other direction as well.<br />One particular husband, a friend of mine, was, I'm not sure of the word, but he felt a bit belittled or unloved for to be sexually active with his wife. There's obviously a lot of deeper issues going on, but on one spectrum when he thought he was being respectful and going without sex for several months at a time, trying to be good, when he approached his wife it required the commitment of various deeds, from buying a car to washing dishes and bathrooms for the next two weeks, etc. I'm not saying a man shouldn't do those things, and while I didn't live with them to know, he expressed that he considered himself one who volunteered this type of help anyways. He wanted to go to a bishop for help but thought it wouldn't do any good, asked me what I thought I'd do. I didn't know what to say, so I said maybe you should tell her how it makes you feel to "earn" sex, like you feel like you disgust her and will only do it for favors. <br /><br />I only bring this up as maybe there's a little of this happening out there and guys don't know how to express it? Also I'm sure that much of it is also lust driven. While I agree a person has the right to say no, I also feel a yes shouldn't require extra deeds, but rather a recognition of deeds already done and love already expressed and a type of celebration of that connection, not a hostage to favors.<br /><br />What you've said is right on, what your husband said is right on. Kudos to you two. I hope what I've posted only adds to the discussion on this topic and not take away.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5424482756711997594.post-40076676578219609152017-03-11T00:27:16.284-07:002017-03-11T00:27:16.284-07:00I just found your blog today. Thank you for having...I just found your blog today. Thank you for having so much courage. I knew deep down I could not be the only LDS wife/mother who struggles with these issues. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5424482756711997594.post-62965375263314057602016-04-04T15:28:30.762-06:002016-04-04T15:28:30.762-06:00Thank you so much for sharing your experiences. Yo...Thank you so much for sharing your experiences. You have so much strength and such a great attitude! Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5424482756711997594.post-86846043442962638392016-04-04T13:26:33.146-06:002016-04-04T13:26:33.146-06:00H. Burke Peterson, “Unrighteous Dominion,” Ensign,...H. Burke Peterson, “Unrighteous Dominion,” Ensign, Jul 1989, 7 “The letters and phone calls the Brethren receive from faithful wives and children … are heartrending…It is tragic that too often husbands and fathers, even those who hold the priesthood, conduct themselves in their own homes in ways that would be censured in any other social setting. Countless heartaches and misshaped lives result from this unrighteous behavior.…Exercising unrighteous dominion can follow many patterns… Examples of Unrighteous Dominion…Another sister called on the telephone. Her concern was that her husband regularly purchased pornographic magazines and that every night he watched explicit videos and movies and then made inappropriate and offensive demands of her. Despite this culpable behavior—kept secret from priesthood leaders until his wife’s anguished telephone call—this man had served as a temple worker… Misunderstood and Misused Scriptures …1. Too often, scriptural teachings are taken out of context by those who are guilty of unrighteous dominion….Do I insist that family members obey me because I am the father or husband and hold the priesthood?… If the answer to any of these questions is yes, then we may need to evaluate our relationship with our family members. For one who holds the priesthood, the best test as to whether he is trying to control the lives of family members can be found by examining his relationship with the Lord.”<br />Elder Joseph B Wirthlin, “…the principle of compensation. The Lord compensates the faithful for every loss. That which is taken away from those who love the Lord will be added unto them in His own way. While it may not come at the time we desire, the faithful will know that every tear today will eventually be returned a hundredfold with tears of rejoicing and gratitude.” (October 2008 Come What May, and Love It).<br />“Because sexual intimacy is so sacred, the Lord requires self-control and purity before marriage, as well as full fidelity after marriage…Tears inevitably follow transgression. Men, take care not to make women weep, for God counts their tears.” Thomas S. Monson, “Standards of Strength,” New Era, 10-08, 5<br /><br />“As we live on earth we must walk in faith…‘I have heard thy prayer, I have seen thy tears: behold I will heal thee’ (2 Kings 20:5). Some of the healing may take place in another world. We may never know why some things happen in this life. The reason for some of our suffering is known only to the Lord.” —James E. Faust, “Where Do I Make My Stand?” Ensign, Nov. 2004, 21<br />Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5424482756711997594.post-43467156083426224312016-04-04T10:45:28.788-06:002016-04-04T10:45:28.788-06:00Thank you for being so open about this HUGE proble...Thank you for being so open about this HUGE problem. I wish your story was an outlier but it's just another one of many sad scenarios that makes me think our local leaders have this "boys club" where they all just support each other no matter how wrong it is. I love the gospel with all my heart, and I am glad someone was sent to meet with you, that at least means someone at the top gets this. Thank you for sharing, I absolutely love your response to your SP, written in another post. I would not have had such a Christlike response.Cynthiahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04349687071580858191noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5424482756711997594.post-62235517098383607502016-04-03T19:11:26.456-06:002016-04-03T19:11:26.456-06:00Beautiful :)also, I love the quotes shared above Beautiful :)also, I love the quotes shared above Kilee Mariehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15244829278593680810noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5424482756711997594.post-28888374507492115012016-04-03T11:41:27.413-06:002016-04-03T11:41:27.413-06:00This is for you and the many other wopas whove exp...This is for you and the many other wopas whove experienced the pain of having someone tell them sex with their husband's was their responsibility ❤ I think you'll enjoy these quotes:) Good job for standing up for what you believe Sidreis!<br /><br /><br />President J. Reuben Clark Jr<br /><br />“There is some belief, too much I fear, that sex desire is planted in us solely for the pleasures of full gratification; that the begetting of children is only an unfortunate incident. The direct opposite is the fact. Sex desire was planted in us in order to be sure that bodies would be begotten to house the spirits; the pleasures of gratification of the desire is an incident, not the primary purpose of the desire.” And then he says further:<br /><br />“As to sex in marriage, the necessary treatise on that for Latter-day Saints can be written in two sentences: Remember the prime purpose of sex desire is to beget children. Sex gratification must be had at that hazard. You husbands: be kind and considerate of your wives. They are not your property; they are not mere conveniences; they are your partners for time and eternity.” (Conference Report,General Priesthood Conference, October 1949, <br /><br />Elder Spencer W. Kimball<br /><br />“Even though sex can be an important and satisfactory part of married life, we must remember that life is not designed just for sex. Even marriage does not make proper certain extremes in sexual indulgence. And perhaps the Lord’s condemnation included secret sexual sins in marriage, when he said: ‘… And those who are not pure, and have said they were pure, shall be destroyed, saith the Lord God.’ (D&C 132:52.)” (Miracle of Forgiveness, 73)<br /><br />David o Mckay:<br /><br />"A woman should be queen of her own body. The marriage covenant does not give the man the right to enslave her, or to abuse her, or to use her merely for the gratification of his passion. Your marriage ceremony does not give you that right” <br /><br />Elder Spencer J Condi<br /><br />"Unfortunately, some married couples fail to realize that sexual experiences were never intended by the Lord to be a mere plaything or merely to satisfy passions and lusts. When couples engage in physical intimacy devoid of emotional and spiritual intimacy, or when they participate in unholy practices, what should be a spiritually bonding element in their marriage may actually become a disruptive force. <br />“Finding Marital Unity through the Scriptures,” Ensign, Jul 1986<br /><br />Elder Larry E Dahl<br /><br />"What is really meant by “lusting after” someone, or committing adultery “in [one’s] heart”? Lust is defined as “sexual desire often to an intense or unrestrained degree." In the scriptures, the heart has to do with the core or essence of a person—his real intent and unfeigned desires. <br /><br />If we imagine ourselves involved in improper things, our thoughts may influence our heart’s inclination and perhaps even our future behavior. Dr. Maxwell Maltz underscores the connection between our thoughts and our body’s nervous system: “Experimental and clinical psychologists have proved beyond a shadow of a doubt that the human nervous system cannot tell the difference between an ‘actual’ experience and an experience imagined vividly and in detail.”<br />The Higher Law<br />https://www.lds.org/ensign/1991/02/the-higher-law?lang=eng<br /><br />Elder Brent A Barlow<br /> "....There are couples who seem to feel that the only reason for sexuality is physical gratification. These people become so obsessed with the achievement of sensation that the emotion of love is all but forgotten. Still others use sexuality as a weapon or a bargaining tool. This is not only a misuse of a God-given privilege, it shows great selfishness on the part of one or both partners and makes sexuality a destructive rather than a unifying element in marriage.<br /><br />It wouldn't let me post all of them, heres more:<br />http://makemyburdenlight.blogspot.com/2016/04/is-it-my-responsibility-to-have-sex.html?m=1<br /><br />Makemyburdenlighthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08272103698183036082noreply@blogger.com