tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5424482756711997594.post3458474671974094832..comments2023-12-30T18:00:34.669-07:00Comments on by the light of grace . . .: Scapegoats and ComparisonsThe Lighthouse Coalitionhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07313283867022797916noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5424482756711997594.post-78973711730079669972013-05-08T14:51:54.214-06:002013-05-08T14:51:54.214-06:00Guilty and guilty!! I am the so bad at comparing m...Guilty and guilty!! I am the so bad at comparing myself in recovery as well as all aspects of my life. I have discovered lately because I have been so so busy it usually comes in times of idleness or loneliness and recently I haven't been as bad at this. Maybe I am just getting better recovery because I actually am learning to kinda like who I am even with all my flaws. I also was not abused in any way and my heart breaks for those that came to their addictions because of it. But the way doesn't in fact matter, just that we are recovering. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5424482756711997594.post-26523845216443816132013-05-07T11:09:32.102-06:002013-05-07T11:09:32.102-06:00Love this! Yes! I think this type of thinking ca...Love this! Yes! I think this type of thinking can be applied to ALL sorts of situations in life.The Lighthouse Coalitionhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07313283867022797916noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5424482756711997594.post-72229864702847050392013-05-07T11:08:50.929-06:002013-05-07T11:08:50.929-06:00Good to know I'm not the only one! I think it...Good to know I'm not the only one! I think it's pretty common actually. I really like how you pointed out that comparison can go both ways too.:-)The Lighthouse Coalitionhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07313283867022797916noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5424482756711997594.post-87079588850798279942013-05-06T20:02:01.709-06:002013-05-06T20:02:01.709-06:00I, too, needed to hear this.
I especially liked...I, too, needed to hear this. <br /><br />I especially liked this part...."It didn't matter how I came to be where I was because it didn't change the fact that I was where I was." Looking to blame my husband for where I am today isn't going to change where I am, where we are. I am here now and I need to focus my energy on moving forward, on my Savior...then, like you, recovery can truly begin for me. <br /><br />Thanks again!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03270125206728156959noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5424482756711997594.post-15319812221451681682013-05-06T18:19:33.612-06:002013-05-06T18:19:33.612-06:00I really needed to hear this. I have also done the...I really needed to hear this. I have also done the whole 'wish i was abused' thing... then when I convinced myself of the truth that I was not, I tried to place blame on someone else. I realize I am doing it and am STRIVING to not... to realize that I am who and how I am because. And all I can do now is move forward. I can't go back, so why dwell there? I am constantly comparing myself too. Sometimes patting myself on the back that I'm not as 'addict' as that person.... wow. stupid. I am still an addict. I am still who and how I am. Just because I perceive someone else's addiction to be 'better' or 'worse' than my own, that doesn't take away the fact that I have an addiction. Definitely things I am working on. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com