In chronological order, by presenter:
Opening Keynote: Paul Parkin on Empathy
I really loved Paul. His presentation style was so entertaining and meaningful. He had great insights into empathy that I really felt fit well with my own presentation on Grace.
I especially loved his analogy of the rock climber, and how he likened rock climbing to our own journey of recovery. He expressed the importance of strapping ourselves to others who are also climbing so that in those moments when we lose our footing, there are secure people around us who can catch our fall. Additionally, all that we learn along our recovery path act as hooks in the mountain wall, securing us even tighter against the threat of treacherous calamity. Finally, he validated our need to take breaks every now and then; to refuel and refresh.
Empathy happens three places:
- Head - This is where we inject ourselves into the perspective of another and ask; 'what would it be like to be them?'
- Heart - This is where we assume what it feels like to be them.
- Hand - This is the action that follows, the desire to sooth and comfort them.
I still have yet to wrap my head around this and come up with an answer worth documenting...
"Empathy has the ability to wrap its arms around us and tell us that everything shame says is not true." - Paul Parkin
"People cannot help us unless we have the courage to tell our story." - Paul Parkin
"Empathy is not something that we do, it's something that we are; we become empathy." - Paul Parkin
First Breakout Session: Paul Parkin on Listening to Our Emotions
The single most important thing I learned from this class is that there is no such thing as negative emotions. All emotions are positive. To call them negative is to shame them, which leads to stuffing, which will eventually lead to exploding. All emotion has purpose.
"Emotions diagnose us." - Paul ParkinAlthough none of our emotions are negative, our response to them can be.
The three most toxic and damaging emotions are:
- Recognize and label
- Problem Solve
"We cannot change other people, we can only change ourselves, but by changing ourselves, we invite change in others." - Paul Parkin
- Be true to yourself
- Leave no regrets
- Become love
- Live in the moment
- Give more than you take
"Sexual intimacy is the bi-product of actual intimacy." - Dr. Kevin Skinner
"Intimacy = in-to-me-see" - Dr. Kevin Skinner
"Any decision based on fear is the wrong one." - Rhyll Croshaw
"Speak truth through a filter of love." - Rhyll Croshaw
"Truth trumps love, because love cannot survive in a lie; so above all, speak truth." Sidreis Keller Agla
"If I'm in my own head, I'm behind enemy lines" - Rhyll Croshaw
Midday Keynote: Ashlee Harmon Birk on The Moments We Stand
Wow, I barely took notes through this presentation because I pretty much sobbed through the entire thing, but I did manage to catch a few:
- Find the beauty that is still all around
- Have faith in the future
- Find forgiveness
- Believe in YOU!
- Find hope in your story
Fourth Breakout Session: Sidreis Keller Agla on Grace
Once I write the blog post(s) detailing my presentation, I will link it here.
Fifth Breakout Session: Liz MacDonald on Self Compassion and Emotional Release
One thing that I really loved about Liz is she was funny. Sometimes we seriously just need a bit of comic relief to lighten the load of what we carry.
"True freedom is the ability to pause and respond to a stimulus or trigger." - Kathy Kinghorn